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Annie Leibovitz, Balloon boy, Bravo TV, Huffington post, John Edward, Kourtney Kardashian., Peter Orszag love child, Tareq and Michaele Salahi, Tiger Woods, Vanity Fair
This morning I received by mail my February issue of Vanity Fair. On the front cover Tiger Wood naked. Underneath the pictures it said: “Raw, Never-before-seen photos! by Annie Leibovitz.”
Last time I saw the word RAW was on the Vivid porno DVD’s, and today I see it on one of the most respected magazine in America. Suddenly everything made sense to me: The obsession we all had for the last months over Wood’s affair was nothing but envy. No matter how fiercely his behavior was attacked, it is obvious that it is one of the most fantasized situation. Everybody is writing about it and everybody is reading about it. His case reminded me of the same ordeal John Edward went and still going through. Based on our society’s values, there is a consensus that those two man should be stoned to death, and indeed the stoning did kill their career.
As a married woman and an incurable feminist I am not approving their behavior. Those two men are married, have families and represent a role model idolized by many. But, do we really hate them and think of them as vicious people? Or they are just the object of our deepest fantasy? You might think fantasy for men maybe. Married men who are bored at home could seek some temporary excitement, and the one with tender heart would just live it through Tiger Wood and John Edward. But what about women? Well believe it or not, many women, married or not, did also fantasized of being Edward’s mistress, or just a one night stand in Wood’s ripped arms. It is not that the mistresses were ugly or anything. Kelly Rippa, on Live with Regis and Kelly once said: “I am so outraged by Wood’s behavior, he slept with so many women and yet he never hit on me! Not once!” Of course she was joking but the idea might have crossed so many women’s mind.
Those stories of infidelity are having so much success that the media people are trying to milk it as much as they can. Recently a new case based on the story of Peter Orszag’s love child, revealed to me a new face of our society.
Peter Orszag’s is the White House Office and Budget Management Director. He, Just like Tom Brady, is going to have a love child. I understand the obsession with the affairs of the most extraordinary-sexual-one-of-a-kind men like Wood and Brady, but to extend our obsession to the Orszag’s case? it speaks volumes!
Who is really Peter Orszag? Peter Orszag, who was recently described by the New York Times magazines as the sexiest nerd in Washington DC, well is… a nerd. Most of all he is a single man who, hastily, had unprotected sex. His story, at his own huge surprise (and many other people), is making headlines. Huffington Post already wrote more than three articles about him in a week; about his ex-wife, about his pregnant woman and about his current love. Seriously? like SNL would say:) Seriously? Who is interested in this man’s sex life?
I realized that if I, personally don’t have any interest in some single man’s affairs, many people do. Bottom line, we love to hear sex stories but we hide behind Puritanism. We are nothing but the modern voyeurs.
Instead of hiding behind the curtains to watch our neighbor in her/his intimate moments, all we have to do is watch TV and read the news. Bravo TV is full of successful reality shows where you can see the details of people’s life whom we never met and who will never be our neighbors. The examples are multiple: it goes from the Real Housewives (of the state of the union) to Keeping up with the Kardashians…. you can see Lisa Wu Hartwell with her NFL husband Ed planning to have another child (by planning I mean in bed) or simply Kourtney Kardashian getting pregnant. In the latter case we all saw the scene before the conception took place (and I mean sperm meet egg), well not completely but enough to witness the act! and by doing that, many viewers could be now witnesses on Mason Dash’s birth certificate.
So to satisfy our distorted taste a new kind of people is born: The Exhibitionists. Who are the exhibitionists? Well, they are no other than the reality TV casts guilty of being accomplice to the crime of voyeurism. It always takes two. It is unbelievable how far the reality TV casts would go just to flash their life on TV. And here I cannot help but bring the case of Tareq and Michaele Salahi. Needless to explain who they are. Or the Balloon boy, whose parents are desperate for attention.
By the end of the day we are all human being, voyeurs or exhibitionists, active or passive. We all play the game no matter on which end we stand. And as a person who switch side depending on the days, I am gonna go now and see Tiger Wood’s raw photos. It is just because I am a dedicated fan of Annie Leibovitz:)
Talk to you later.
Related topic: Tiger woods reflecting on adultery and public apology
I agree with you but I think it is all to do with entering a phase in humanity where we want to reconnect our fragmented selves back together. We used to live in communities where everyone knew everything about everybody and we needed to measure ourselves against other members in our community.
We have lost that, but we have found other ways of measuring our lives. Part of that is the unfortunate human trait of wanting to shoot down the people who are flying – poor Tiger. I don’t condone his actions either but I can see that the over-exposed in the public eye might be thrown off track and behave out of character.
Enjoy your Annie Leibovitz research…
Very nice, Kerry, and I think you have a point here.
Thank you.
I totally agree with Kerry’s points. I think the rhythm society imposes on our lives doesn’t leave us time for self-reflection : we are forever running to and fro. Analysing the lives of others, it’s a way to go on escaping from our own truth. The problem is that eventually we will find ourselves facing our achievements and then the lives of celebrities, or any other human being, won’t matter at all. I recently heard something that has given me food for thought:’ Hell is the moment in which you come face to face with the person you might have become’. Escaping from our lives is not a good idea!
WAW Alicia, it is amazing what you said:” escaping from our own truth” I love it! Very well said!
I liked also the line you have mentioned: “Hell is the moment in which you come face with the person you might have become”. Made me think that if we ever meet this person who is like us, we will love her if we love ourselves, and we will hate her if we hate ourselves. Don’t you think?
I like your point, although for me it has a different meaning. I understand that when you come close to the end of your life and you recall the stages of your life… then, you will see the person you might have become standing in front of you (that self that never became real because you betrayed your own desires) and that moment can be compared to hell (in the sense that the suffering it produces is such that is similar to the pain experienced in hell)… That’s why we must keep contact with our own life and make sure along the way that the person we will see standing in front of us will be our real self. I don’t know whether I have explained it correctly since English is not my native tongue… I am very happy to have met you on the web!!
Oh yes you have explained it very well Alicia:) and your English is excellent. English is not my first language either. (English is only my third language). I am very happy to have met you too on the web. You are a very interesting person. I love it when I meet interesting people.
To go back to our topic; one of the reason I created this blog this year, is to try to find out who I became. I changed so much during the years and I want to see my real self through my writing.
I should definitely learn to speak spanish, so I could read your blog! So how are the fifties treating you?:)
I was looking at your profile but there are no data about you. All I know is that you live in the USA and a friend of Kerry’s, but I don’t know how old you are or what are your first and second languages?… You ask me how my fifties are treating me and I would say that it is a complex age. I feel my body does not belong to me for I don’t recognise it when I look at myself in the mirror. Actually, it’s all the changes I’m going through that seem to have happened overnight… Then, I am revising my whole life, trying to discover what really matters and leaving the rest behind… I don’t like the way I have escaped from myself so far, so now I want to start a new path towards self-knowledge and fulfill our ultimate goal: being happy. You can write to me on the address shown in my blog, so that we can get to know each other better if you wish. I thank you for your prompt reply!
Ok I will write to you, cause I don’t want to reveal too much on my blog. Thank you:)
Hey Mirella,
I’m so pleased you have met Alicia who happens to be one of my favourite people out there in the blogosphere. Lets all meet for lunch one day! I have just put up a new post and am leaving for the uk tomorrow for 10 days. I will try to do one when I am there but not sure it will be possible. x
Yep will have lunch on the beach in the Canary Islands. Alicia said that they are having a wonderful weather down there. You can bring some croissants, wine and goat cheese from Gerard/Michel… LOL LOL I will bring cheesecake. And then we will go on the Cabbage diet. My gosh I cannot remember how many time I did this diet when I was in Paris, we were a support group. LOL LOL LOL…..
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Hello Mirella,
I enjoyed this post. You hit the nail on the head when you wrote, “By the end of the day we are all human being, voyeurs or exhibitionists, active or passive. We all play the game no matter on which end we stand. ” This is so true. At first we’ll do the criticizing, and then we’ll take care of the doing, and then we won’t care.
In other words, we just have to learn from others and then mind our own business. LOL.
Great blog Mirella, and it’s great to meet you, thanks to @scottlaplant!
**Jeannie
I am so happy to have find your blog Jeannie. It is a great blog too!
I should have visited your blog long time ago, since we first met on Tweeter!
OH yes I owe all the wonderful friends to Scott.
It is so nice to have you in my circles of friend and beingyour friend too!
Kisses
Mirella